Thursday, October 21, 2010

The dog blog...

So we have never had a dog. Chandler is afraid of them, or so I thought. He has been around several breeds and it is never different. He cries, runs away, or best case scenario, he acts indifferent. Last April, of course being autism awareness month, we spoke on local radio stations about Autism, and community awareness. During a radio spot at KFGO, I had the pleasure of meeting a woman who raised puppies for a company called CCI (Canine Companions for Independence). I had never heard of autism service dogs, and to be honest, I wasn't sure I was sold on what they could do. Sure, some children with autism could use a friend, a companion who won't walk away when they meltdown over no chocolate poptarts, but I was sure many children with autism would just be too scared, too indifferent.
But this dog was pretty, and extremely well behaved. Nora. A beautiful yellow lab, who was so sweet and calm. I asked Karen if maybe she could bring Nora to my house to visit Chandler, and she was more than happy to. Not expecting too much from Chandler, we just let him lead. And in shock, I watched as he went from being simply curious to moving closer, and closer until he reached out to Nora and touched her. He said puppy and smiled. I was elated. I was confused. I didn't know what to do. Could I handle going through this rigorous process and what if we made it through step 1, 2, 3, and 4 only to find out we would be turned down? I asked a barrage of questions, and Karen patiently answered them all, and she had this confidence about these dogs that I could not ignore. Her support, the support of Bob Harris of KFGO, my autism mom friends, they all had been so helpful, and they wanted this for Chandler as much as I did. So I took the plunge and forward
After the app, the forms from therapists, doctors, and us, and photos of our family, and our story, we got an email, then a phone interview, and then an invitation for a personal interview in Ohio. OHIO. A 16 hour drive with my autistic child. My heart sank. I still had to tell my husband.  Did I mention they gave us two weeks to make plans?
I took a deep breath and broke the news to Travis. He was wonderful! He took PL days off work, and checked the whole truck from oil to taillights, packed a cooler, and a pile of blankets, books, and toys, and we were off. I have never been east of Minnesota, so we talked and laughed at all the cheese stores mingled with the adult novelty shops in WI, the huge industry of Gary, IN, and the gorgeous skyline of Chicago. We marveled over all the tolls on the 80/90 tollway, and tried out the Oasis (roadside reststops but with gas, coffee, and food, right off and back on the interstate) so Chandler could have an ice cream. We missed swimming at the hotel by ten minutes, and dinner and ate candy bars from the vending machine for dinner. We ate at a very "countrified" KFC and Chandler stared in wonder/horror at a life sized statue of the colonel. Travis and I held hands, and I felt connected to him more than I had in a long time. We used GPS more in three days than in our whole lives. We made it to Delaware, OH, and the CCI building loomed in front of me. I swallowed, hard, and I could feel the anxiousness and the worry creeping in. I will skip to the end of the four hours, after the demos, the tours, and get right down to the personal interview. I remember staring across the room at the wall, the pictures of the graduates, the photos blurring from my watery eyes. I heard "its harder to get funding for autism dogs"...."We try really hard...", "We just aren't set up to deal with kids with severe autism in this facility...". My mind wandered to the fiasco that was Travis, me, and Chandler during the training demo with the dogs, we couldn't figure out where to stand, keep the leash in Chandlers hand.....But didn't you see him?! I wanted to scream. He doesn't talk. He said SIT, and GOOD, and PUPPY!! He reached for the leash on his OWN!! I could feel a huge lump in my throat. She kept asking questions, and my confidence was dissipating. I mumbled a "It was nice to meet you..",  and it felt like slow motion as Travis moved to get Chandler toward the door. Chandler was currently angry about the stack of sodas he saw by the door, and was adamant that he get a mountain dew right this second. When we were in the car, and buckled in, I broke down sobbing. I said, "They aren't going to take him are they?" And Travis said, "Not a chance. I'm so sorry honey." I watched Chandler giggling and bouncing in his chair and playing with his purple squid I bought him on our trip to Underwater world last month. I sobbed harder. After venting all the reasons they were wrong not to take him, and justifying the trip in my head, the mood was more somber on the way home. We shopped, and stayed in a hotel (we would NOT miss swimming hours this time!) And went out for pizza. Everyone asked how it went. Texts, facebook, phone calls. All I could say was we had to wait to hear, we would let everyone forward.
Sunny day, and I was on the phone with Kate complaining about school, and picking through the mail while driving. (Its multitasking!) Ah! My autism moms calendar came! I tossed all the other mail onto the passenger seat of the car, and out of the corner of my eye I could see a little piece of yellow and bright blue. The CCI symbol. Oh my God. I tore the envelope open and the letter fell in my lap.
As based on your interview, we have decided you may benefit from a skilled companion dog from CCI.....
Kate! He made it! sob...He made it! sob....They took him! CCI! sob...sob...sob...I...sob. My heart was filled. This will undoubtedly change our lives. My beautiful, joyful, wonderful son will have his friend. There are angels among us. Karen. Bob. Nora. All my other angels. I live a life full of challenges, amazement, and wonder....and I would never trade it.


  1. You've made me cry! Talk about suspense! BB is severely dog phobic: running out into traffic is preferable to coming close to a dog as far as he's concerned. I can't wait to see how Chandler get on. You're right, our children allow us to meet wonderful people!

  2. Congradulations!
    We have a golden retriever, and though he was never trained, the patience and thoughtfulness this dog shows to Ben is amazing.
    He's like a wild indian with my husband and I, but when Ben approaches him and climbs on his back (which of course we step in) he just stands still so not to knock him over. Ben has pinched him, the dog never mooves his head. not an ounce of aggresion.
    I don't know how the big boob knows, but I swear the dog is more aware then many people.
    We love him, and he loves us. A perfect addition to the family.

  3. Hello,
    This was defiantly a Kleenex moment. I am a friend of Karen's and a fellow puppy raiser for CCI and I have to say that it's stories like this that make what I do so fulfilling and worth all the time, love and tears we put into these puppies.
    Congratulations and enjoy the process!
    Sharon Higgins

  4. Thank you so much for posting your story! I am also a friend of Karen's and a fellow puppy raiser for CCI. People ask me all the time how I can love a puppy for 18 months and then say goodbye. Stories like yours are why. I'm so glad you met Karen and Nora!
    :) Jennifer Keller & Roxy

  5. As Sharon and Jen above, I'm a volunteer puppy raiser for CCI (Hi Ladies!). Thank you for sharing this profound experience. And like Sharon, I was reaching for the kleenex box before I could finish reading. I would love to add a link to your blog on my blog roll at (I never add to links to my blog roll without the owner's permission) Feel free to drop me a note at

    Donna Sword & CCI pup Micron